Tag: self compassion

Is the New Positivity Trend making us More Negative?

Be Positive; the new moral compass

The growing trend that says positivity is the right way may be the very thing that is creating anger and frustration. Which are the so-called ‘negative emotions’ that it says to avoid.

Of course being positive is… well… positive but it can also be a mask or cover to hide the underlying feelings.

My favorite way to explain this (sorry if this bothers you) being positive can be like putting icing on a shit cake. If you’re feeling ‘shitty’ inside but you decide you should feel happy or positive what happens to the ‘shitty’ feelings?… Read the rest

Let go of the thoughts and stories that are holding you back

Get Out of Your Way! – Self Limiting Beliefs

Recognizing Self Limiting Beliefs

I can be impatient when I drive. It’s not something I like to admit but there it is. I’m often thinking or saying “get out of my way”! But if I’ve only learned one thing in the last decade of becoming and being a counsellor it’s that I’m the one in my way. If I want to be happy this is what I recognize in each moment.

That brings me to Self Limiting Beliefs, also known as, Non-Supportive Stories or as I learned them, Suspicions of Self.

Recognizing your own limiting beliefs takes awareness, paying attention to your thoughts. That doesn’t mean you need to meditate it just means you notice what you’re thinking.… Read the rest

A solitary man appears depressed.

What Is Complex PTSD?

<p>In order to understand Complex PTSD, let’s first talk about PTSD or Post- Traumatic Stress Disorder, which you have …

Intimacy between two adults.

EMPTY Intimacy: About More than Sex

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Authenticity is keeping it real.

The Authenticity Debate

<p><span data-preserver-spaces="true">“Authenticity” is an overused and often-debated term these days. We are told to …