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Unconditional Love – What is it? For Parents, Friends and Partners – Part 2

Part 2 of the Unconditional Love Blog by Choose Again

For loving healthy relationships and happy homes get clearer about when love is unconditional and when it’s need.

Hint: Unconditional Love isn’t obligation, tolerating bad behaviour or bargaining.

Unconditional love sounds like:

  • “I don’t need you to shield me from pain or discomfort. I need to learn from mistakes to grow.”
  • “You don’t need to take care of my emotions I’m learning to do that myself.”
  • “Loving you means not doing everything for you at my expense. Or vice versa.”
  • “I don’t need to tolerate abuse, neglect or other deal breakers to love you unconditionally.”
  • “Please just hear me and accept me, I don’t need you to fix me.”
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Unconditional Love – Fear vs. Love – Is it part of your Relationship? For Parents, Friends and Partners

The 1st of a 6 part blog on Unconditional Love

The writer’s focus is on Unconditional Love in the Parent child relationship but these questions and statements can apply to all our relationships.

Our ideas of what’s loving when looked at closely are really fear in disguise.

How often in an intimate relationship have you felt responsible to ‘fix’ your partners bad mood? Or have you felt guilty because you’ve made a mistake and your friends angry with you? These are all examples of Conditional Love for ourselves and for others.

Read on to start to understand what Unconditionally Loving means.… Read the rest

Love in Lights - Photo by Nadine Shaabana on Unsplash

Boost your Feelings Vocabulary with This List

Feelings and the corresponding words are something that most of us weren’t taught, or taught well, growing up. In fact, they may never have been taught well and so what’s been passed down the generations are simple words for complex feelings or worse… no words at all.

It’s a simple language that can only benefit your ability to communicate with others as well as understand yourself and the ebb and flow of emotions inside.

Here’s a list of some feelings words but certainly not all. Read them over and see which you relate to, which you are drawn to and which make you want to jump to the next word.… Read the rest

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Stress and Anxiety – Calm and Find Confidence with this Technique

Stress and Anxiety isn’t something that needs to be fixed it’s an unneeded process of handling fear (often unconscious fear). The hitch is..the process has become so automatic that we’re not even aware of it… or the fear.

Causes of Stress and Anxiety

There are many behaviours that people have learned to avoid fear which lead to stress and anxiety. See if you can recognize a behaviour that’s familiar to you.

Behaviours that cause Stress and Anxiety:

  • Not thinking about the problem, burying it
  • Distracting yourself with work or escape activities
  • Controlling the situation or people around you
  • Creating other problems or drama to distract
  • Forcing yourself to repeat and believe affirmations or a hopeful outcome

Why am I stressed and anxious?

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Liz Coleman RTC

Not Happy? Not Unhappy? .. You’re in the Comfort Zone

The Comfort Zone can be like the Dead Zone when you’re neither Happy nor Unhappy.

At first escaping to comfort isn’t all bad it’s helpful. Like a reward, we’re happy and feel relieved with the break from the anxiety and stresses of life. But when escaping becomes the place you live from... you are in the Comfort Zone.

The reward and happy feeling of Facebook, gaming, TV or whatever your escape, eventually wears off. It always does. Then you risk becoming caught in your comfort zone. If you don’t drop the activity to find something new the need for the happy feeling will force you to just do more of it.… Read the rest

Let go of the thoughts and stories that are holding you back

Get Out of Your Way! – Self Limiting Beliefs

Recognizing Self Limiting Beliefs

I can be impatient when I drive. It’s not something I like to admit but there it is. I’m often thinking or saying “get out of my way”! But if I’ve only learned one thing in the last decade of becoming and being a counsellor it’s that I’m the one in my way. If I want to be happy this is what I recognize in each moment.

That brings me to Self Limiting Beliefs, also known as, Non-Supportive Stories or as I learned them, Suspicions of Self.

Recognizing your own limiting beliefs takes awareness, paying attention to your thoughts. That doesn’t mean you need to meditate it just means you notice what you’re thinking.… Read the rest

Unconditional Love – What is it? For Parents, Friends and Partners – Part 2

<p>Part 2 of the Unconditional Love Blog by Choose Again</p> <p><strong>For loving healthy relationships and happy homes</strong> …

Unconditional Love – Fear vs. Love – Is it part of your Relationship? For Parents, Friends and Partners

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Choose Again – Lift the Veil of Label-ism

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