Have you ever exploded with anger that seemed inappropriate to the moment? An explosion that surprises not just everyone around you but maybe even yourself…
It might be a sizeable episode or a brief flash. It might express itself as road rage, domestic abuse, or tossing and breaking objects around you, or an old fashion temper tantrum, or even as small as denying an act of kindness or forgiveness to someone for no reason.
No matter how it manifests itself, the explosive anger leaves you feeling any combination of guilty, inadequate, sad, tired and thoroughly unsatisfied.
You’re not alone… here’s a helpful hint to either avoid those moments or lessen the intensity.
EMBRACE YOUR EMOTIONS!!! – especially if it’s sadness or pain.
Think of a water toy being pushed down into the water… what happens? The pressure builds up steadily until eventually it shoots up out of the water. That is the process of buildup that happened to create your explosive anger. Avoiding the feeling of pain, sadness or frustration merely pushes it down – but it has to come out somehow.
If you acknowledge and allow the feeling in the moment (deep breaths usually help, it will naturally pass by rather instead of remaining stuck. The bonus is that it gets better and better over time. Wouldn’t you rather stay open to seeing all the good stuff in front of you instead of working so hard to hold on to your feelings?
No wonder we’re so tired all the time!