Category: Goals

Forget your GOALS and RESOLUTIONS this year…. 

What have you got to lose?… most people don’t continue past January anyway. Why put yourself through that and feel worse in the end because you feel you’ve failed? That feeling of failure can be worse than staying ‘un-changed’. Shame and Guilt weighs you down. But confidence lifts you up.

So let’s go for gaining confidence this year.

Are you with me?

Almost all of us think of making changes in January for the coming year. But making those changes stick isn’t as simple as buying a new work out machine, gym membership, Nicorette or new marketing plan. True change requires more than that.… Read the rest

Image Bruce Lee who exemplifies Practice to make Perfect. Use that idea to make Practice become Happiness.

How to make happiness a practice and not about perfection

As Bruce Lee is quoted to say “I don’t fear the man that has practiced 10,000 kicks. I fear the man that has practiced 1 kick 10, 000 times”  

Well so it is with your relationships and in your personal life. How do we do anything well? We practice. This seems easy to believe when it’s an instrument or golf swing but what about if we’re wanting more Peace and Happiness? Does it apply? … Yes it does. 

Realistically you can say you’ve already been practicing some behaviours everyday. It’s our automatic, learned responses. If happiness isn’t a problem in your life leave well enough alone but if not then you could say you’ve been practicing the ‘wrong’ things. … Read the rest

Liz Coleman RTC - Surrey Counsellor

Your Goal for Happiness and Success Starts Here – Part 2

Our goals and what we want can get confusing. Which is often why we end up not fully satisfied with the outcome.

Take the weather as an easy example, when it’s cold we want it to be hot and then when it’s hot…..well you know. It seems that asking for one thing means giving up another. Which is why when working with goals that it’s best to focus on the experience of having, being or doing that goal rather than what it looks like.

BRINGING YOUR GOAL INTO THE PRESENT 

One of the great things I learned in counselling school was the Feeling Goal.… Read the rest

Your Goal of Happiness Starts Now

Your Goal for Happiness, Peace and Success Starts Here – Pt. 1

Your Goal of Happiness Starts Now Your Goal of Happiness Starts Now Your Goal of Happiness Starts Now

OUR CHOICES CREATE OUR EXPERIENCE

All our choices are based on the information we have and that’s made up of what we’ve learned and experienced in the past. It’s a mix of emotions and facts. But even cold hard facts can be distorted because, as we are meaning making machines, we’ve learned to judge everything and slot them into ‘good’ or ‘bad‘. In essence creating an emotional decision. And so often our judgments of ‘good’ are based on avoiding discomfort or with fear that something bad will happen otherwise. To make decisions to reach your goal it’s important to recognize and choose the alternative to the fear based choice.… Read the rest

Help! I can’t stop my Bad Habits

When Eating, Drinking and other behaviours become Bad Habits

Sometimes the normal, healthy behaviours we engage in every day become out of control default behaviours, creating problems such as stress and anxiety. Unhealthy habits can be sneaky, starting with an innocent ‘reward’ for having a bad day and leading to becoming the ‘go to’ in an attempt to make yourself feel better. When this happens you can feel powerless to stop it.

Bad Habits and Inner Demons

Common Bad Habits:

  • Eating too much, or not at all
  • Watching TV or movies
  • Checking Facebook, email or surfing
  • Alcohol, smoking or drugs/medication
  • Ranting to friends, gossiping
  • Shopping
  • Work, Exercise, Sleep, Sex

In some cases, daily behaviours become default behaviours and bad habits that you use as a way to cope and distract yourself from feeling the underlying stress and anxiety.… Read the rest

Are You On Track to Meet Your Goals?

We often hear ‘stay on track with your goal’ or ‘Don’t stray from your goal’ but how do you discern whether you’re on track or not?

Here’s 2 quick steps to help you out.

Step 1: Understand Your Values.

Your values are what determine the direction or goal.

What’s most important to you in life? Family? Love? Honesty? Authenticity? Health? Peace? Giving? Faith? Growth? Responsibility? Loyalty? Trust? Expressiveness? Freedom? Reliability? Teamwork? Financial Independence? Grace? Gratitude? Fun? Happiness? Balance? Harmony? Curiosity? Integrity? Self Awareness? Joy? Mindfulness? Openness? Patience? Respect? Spirituality? Timeliness? Tradition? etc…

In some aspects of your life your values may change but having a few values that are constant throughout is key to success.… Read the rest

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