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Boost your Feelings Vocabulary with This List

Feelings and the corresponding words are something that most of us weren’t taught, or taught well, growing up. In fact, they may never have been taught well and so what’s been passed down the generations are simple words for complex feelings or worse… no words at all.

It’s a simple language that can only benefit your ability to communicate with others as well as understand yourself and the ebb and flow of emotions inside.

Here’s a list of some feelings words but certainly not all. Read them over and see which you relate to, which you are drawn to and which make you want to jump to the next word.… Read the rest

Forget your GOALS and RESOLUTIONS this year…. 

What have you got to lose?… most people don’t continue past January anyway. Why put yourself through that and feel worse in the end because you feel you’ve failed? That feeling of failure can be worse than staying ‘un-changed’. Shame and Guilt weighs you down. But confidence lifts you up.

So let’s go for gaining confidence this year.

Are you with me?

Almost all of us think of making changes in January for the coming year. But making those changes stick isn’t as simple as buying a new work out machine, gym membership, Nicorette or new marketing plan. True change requires more than that.… Read the rest

Controlling Your Emotions

How to Control Emotions: Taming Your Inner Beast

Have you ever wondered how to control your emotions or tame your inner beast?

By that I mean the emotions that explode or creep up on you from out of nowhere. It could be anger, resentment, sadness or other feelings. Even love can feel out of control and scary at times. The important thing to know is Controlling emotions isn’t about pretending they’re not there. Often people say ‘let it go’ or ‘distract yourself’ in order to deal with overwhelming emotions.

A better first step is to, simply, name the emotion. But that is easier said than done 

 

The language of emotions is harder than you might think.    

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Image Bruce Lee who exemplifies Practice to make Perfect. Use that idea to make Practice become Happiness.

How to make happiness a practice and not about perfection

As Bruce Lee is quoted to say “I don’t fear the man that has practiced 10,000 kicks. I fear the man that has practiced 1 kick 10, 000 times”  

Well so it is with your relationships and in your personal life. How do we do anything well? We practice. This seems easy to believe when it’s an instrument or golf swing but what about if we’re wanting more Peace and Happiness? Does it apply? … Yes it does. 

Realistically you can say you’ve already been practicing some behaviours everyday. It’s our automatic, learned responses. If happiness isn’t a problem in your life leave well enough alone but if not then you could say you’ve been practicing the ‘wrong’ things. … Read the rest

The Rules to Living

The Hidden Life Rules

In society there are hidden life rules or conditions accepted as normal, ‘the way life is’.

Words and phrases such as “boys don’t cry” or “the early bird gets the worm” are shared throughout the world without most of us questioning whether or not they are true or helpful. More importantly we don’t consider how they actually show up in our life. These hidden rules of living can be very helpful but they can also be self defeating and get in the way of your happiness.

The question is… which ones serve you and which do not?

The rules of life we learned in childhood drive our current behaviors.… Read the rest

Stress and Anxiety – Calm and Find Confidence with this Technique

Stress and Anxiety isn’t something that needs to be fixed it’s an unneeded process of handling fear (often unconscious fear). The hitch is..the process has become so automatic that we’re not even aware of it… or the fear.

Causes of Stress and Anxiety

There are many behaviours that people have learned to avoid fear which lead to stress and anxiety. See if you can recognize a behaviour that’s familiar to you.

Behaviours that cause Stress and Anxiety:

  • Not thinking about the problem, burying it
  • Distracting yourself with work or escape activities
  • Controlling the situation or people around you
  • Creating other problems or drama to distract
  • Forcing yourself to repeat and believe affirmations or a hopeful outcome

Why am I stressed and anxious?

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Happy couple looking out at the water

Relationships: Hard Work or Adventure?

Successful relationships are a Work in Progress

Has your relationship become stale or filled with constant conflict? It’s probably because it’s stopped growing.

Do you even look at your partner anymore? Or if you do is it only when you’re mad? Relationships stop growing when we think we know everything there is to know about ourselves and our partner. If you’re feeling bored, lonely or frustrated in your relationship then it’s an indication that growth and progress has stopped.

Let’s change the word ‘work’ to Adventure and Curiousity.

The truth is, you don’t know everything about yourself, so how could you know everything about your partner.… Read the rest

Stress and anxiety management. Take control and breathe.

Stress Can be Good for You

Stress and anxiety are aspects of our lives that aren’t going away very easily.

Even so, you’re more powerful and in control than you think.

It may seem that stress controls you because it’s more powerful. But it isn’t, you’re letting it.

Stress as a Helpful Tool

You’ve already been using stress unconsciously as a tool to cope through uncertain times. Now use it purposefully to gain more positive results. Stressing or worrying about an outcome or experience makes us feel like we’re taking action. This then feels like a bit of control instead of sitting back and accepting the situation.… Read the rest

Love in Lights - Photo by Nadine Shaabana on Unsplash

BEING IN LOVE – Luck or bravery? Explore Fear and Love in Relationship

Love is such a difficult, almost impossible thing to define.

Is it just something that some couples are lucky enough to have?

Glennon Doyle Melton comes to this question herself and defines it beautifully in her book ‘Love Warrior: a Memoir’

Is love, not a feeling, but a place between 2 present people? A sacred place created when 2 people decide it’s safe enough to let their real selves surface and touch each other. Is that why it’s called ‘in’ love.. because you have to visit there? And was I unable to grasp it because I was trying to understand it with my hovering mind and love can’t be known that way?

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Relationship Stress. Communication and Anger Management

Thinking of leaving your relationship? Read this…

Relationship stress is hard

But that daily relationship stress is nothing compared to the pain and changes you’ll go through with divorce or separation. It’s a misinterpretation to think divorce is easy judging by the rising rates. You’d think it’s as simple as finding the best recycling for an old car stereo or laptop. No!! It’s not!! Not for a lot of people.

Where did we get the idea that relationships are disposable?

So if you’re thinking of leaving your relationship or marriage this article will help.
Learning about all the pain, changes and, thankfully, eventual growth that you can go through with divorce and separation will leave you better prepared to take that step.… Read the rest

Love in Lights - Photo by Nadine Shaabana on Unsplash

Boost your Feelings Vocabulary with This List

<p>Feelings and the corresponding words are something that most of us weren’t taught, or taught well, growing up. In …

Forget your GOALS and RESOLUTIONS this year…. 

<p>What have you got to lose?… most people don’t continue past January anyway. Why put yourself through that and feel …

Controlling Your Emotions

How to Control Emotions: Taming Your Inner Beast

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