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Choose Again – Lift the Veil of Label-ism

From Choose Again daily quote:

Reflections?

 

“Each flies with its own kind: pigeon with pigeon, hawk with hawk.” ~ Idries Shaw

Is the ‘pigeon’, perhaps, merely a reflection of who I think I am? The saying “If you want to fly with the eagles do not walk with the turkeys” teaches a similar lesson. I might suggest I could see it somewhat differently: if I see the Eagle in everyone I meet and not buy into the turkey appearance they may present, then I would, by my choosing, fly with the Eagles regardless of who appears to be flying with me.

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8 Stress Free Scents with Essential Oils

Aromatherapy for Stress and anxiety

Aromatherapy is one of the most pleasant ways to calm ourselves and feel better. It’s quick, fast and easy because our sense of smell triggers powerful physical and emotional responses.

Inhaling Essential oils for Stress

When an essential oil is inhaled your body responds by regulating heart rate, breathing patterns and blood pressure. Since chronic stress can suppress the immune system over time it’s beneficial to practice daily calming techniques and Essential oils is a pleasant option.

Use in your bath or shower, as a direct inhalation, hot water vapor, vaporizer or humidifier, fan, spray or with a diffuser.… Read the rest

Relationship Reality vs Fairy Tale Fantasy

Relationships …. Blissful or Maddening?

Relationship Reality vs the Fairy Tale Fantasy

“One day your prince will come” and other Fairy tales we were taught growing up.

Maybe you believed them, maybe you still do or maybe you don’t. But it’s what the movies and advertising are continuing to teach. “You are not enough if you’re not beautiful and with someone successful or successful and with someone beautiful.” But don’t worry there’s someone out there who will save you.

Ha! No there isn’t. Sorry I know that’s tough to hear.

Yes I’ve grown jaded of those sentiments. AND at the same time I harbour hopes and romantic dreams.… Read the rest

Is the New Positivity Trend making us More Negative?

Be Positive; the new moral compass

The growing trend that says positivity is the right way may be the very thing that is creating anger and frustration. Which are the so-called ‘negative emotions’ that it says to avoid.

Of course being positive is… well… positive but it can also be a mask or cover to hide the underlying feelings.

My favorite way to explain this (sorry if this bothers you) being positive can be like putting icing on a shit cake. If you’re feeling ‘shitty’ inside but you decide you should feel happy or positive what happens to the ‘shitty’ feelings?… Read the rest

S.A.D., Seasonal Affected Disorder

Is it SAD or the Winter Blues?

Have you been feeling sad lately? Having issues with sleep? Waking up tired? And generally feeling ‘blah’?

This could be common symptoms that many experience in the fall and winter seasons in varying degrees. Or it could be the more intense depression of SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder) the emotional and physical changes that come on with the darker seasons. These are gradual for most but if you’re suffering from SAD the changes will be obvious and more extreme.

What is SAD?

SAD is a cyclical depressive period during the fall and winter seasons attributed to the lack of light.

The sooner you can recognize this is not just mood changes but could also be a health problem the better chance you have of helping yourself or someone else. … Read the rest

Love in Lights - Photo by Nadine Shaabana on Unsplash

Boost your Feelings Vocabulary with This List

Feelings and the corresponding words are something that most of us weren’t taught, or taught well, growing up. In fact, they may never have been taught well and so what’s been passed down the generations are simple words for complex feelings or worse… no words at all.

It’s a simple language that can only benefit your ability to communicate with others as well as understand yourself and the ebb and flow of emotions inside.

Here’s a list of some feelings words but certainly not all. Read them over and see which you relate to, which you are drawn to and which make you want to jump to the next word.… Read the rest

Forget your GOALS and RESOLUTIONS this year…. 

What have you got to lose?… most people don’t continue past January anyway. Why put yourself through that and feel worse in the end because you feel you’ve failed? That feeling of failure can be worse than staying ‘un-changed’. Shame and Guilt weighs you down. But confidence lifts you up.

So let’s go for gaining confidence this year.

Are you with me?

Almost all of us think of making changes in January for the coming year. But making those changes stick isn’t as simple as buying a new work out machine, gym membership, Nicorette or new marketing plan. True change requires more than that.… Read the rest

Controlling Your Emotions

How to Control Emotions: Taming Your Inner Beast

Have you ever wondered how to control your emotions or tame your inner beast?

By that I mean the emotions that explode or creep up on you from out of nowhere. It could be anger, resentment, sadness or other feelings. Even love can feel out of control and scary at times. The important thing to know is Controlling emotions isn’t about pretending they’re not there. Often people say ‘let it go’ or ‘distract yourself’ in order to deal with overwhelming emotions.

A better first step is to, simply, name the emotion. But that is easier said than done 

 

The language of emotions is harder than you might think.    

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Image Bruce Lee who exemplifies Practice to make Perfect. Use that idea to make Practice become Happiness.

How to make happiness a practice and not about perfection

As Bruce Lee is quoted to say “I don’t fear the man that has practiced 10,000 kicks. I fear the man that has practiced 1 kick 10, 000 times”  

Well so it is with your relationships and in your personal life. How do we do anything well? We practice. This seems easy to believe when it’s an instrument or golf swing but what about if we’re wanting more Peace and Happiness? Does it apply? … Yes it does. 

Realistically you can say you’ve already been practicing some behaviours everyday. It’s our automatic, learned responses. If happiness isn’t a problem in your life leave well enough alone but if not then you could say you’ve been practicing the ‘wrong’ things. … Read the rest

The Rules to Living

The Hidden Life Rules

In society there are hidden life rules or conditions accepted as normal, ‘the way life is’.

Words and phrases such as “boys don’t cry” or “the early bird gets the worm” are shared throughout the world without most of us questioning whether or not they are true or helpful. More importantly we don’t consider how they actually show up in our life. These hidden rules of living can be very helpful but they can also be self defeating and get in the way of your happiness.

The question is… which ones serve you and which do not?

The rules of life we learned in childhood drive our current behaviors.… Read the rest

Choose Again – Lift the Veil of Label-ism

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8 Stress Free Scents with Essential Oils

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Relationship Reality vs Fairy Tale Fantasy

Relationships …. Blissful or Maddening?

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