About Counselling

 

The 5 Ws of Counselling

WHO can benefit from counselling?

If you…

  • Are unable to clearly define your problems.
  • Are unsure if you really need counselling or unfamiliar with psychotherapy.
  • Are someone who never talks about your feelings.
  • Consider feelings to be unimportant.
  • Talk to a lot of people about your feelings, yet things are getting worse.
  • Don’t believe counselling or therapy can work for you.
  • Are worried you’ll discover something upsetting or horrible about yourself.

WHAT is counselling?

  • A safe, non-judgmental space to share your struggles.
  • A process to gain insight, tools and steps to help you deal with on-going or new issues that are getting in the way of your happiness.

WHERE does counselling happen?

  • In person in an office
  • Online video call via Skype or Zoom
  • By telephone
  • By text

WHEN is the best time and frequency for counselling?

  • Anytime is the best time for counselling whether you’re frustrated and struggling or just want to check in and get a reminder of healthy ways.
  • FREQUENCY of counselling starts at one 60-minute session per week for 5 to 8 weeks.
  • In URGENT or TIME SENSITIVE situations twice a week is helpful. Or longer sessions of 90 mins to two hours are suggested.

WHY would you see a counsellor?

  • You want to feel different and find more happiness in your life
  • You want others to notice the changes in you.
  • You want to feel…
    • Calmer
    • More confident
    • Less defensive
    • Comfortable communicating effectively
    • On purpose with your career, school or personal life
    • Connected and loving with others
    • Energy and passion to do what you love
    • More fun in your life

Finding a good fit with a counsellor is important.

Click here for some great questions to ask.

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